Save Your Sanity: Pro Tips for Staying Cool This Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is supposed to be about gratitude, family, and food—but let’s be honest: it can also be chaos. Between travel plans, endless dishes, family dynamics, and kids running circles around the house, it’s easy for dads to feel overwhelmed. But here’s the good news—you can set the tone. With a little preparation and the right mindset, you can keep calm, enjoy the day, and maybe even sneak in that extra slice of pie.

1. Keep Perspective: Remember the “Why”

Thanksgiving isn’t about the perfect turkey or Instagram-worthy table—it’s about being together. When stress creeps in, pause and remind yourself of the bigger picture: your kids will remember laughter and connection, not whether the stuffing was store-bought.

Dad tip: Pick one thing you want to remember from the day—maybe playing football in the yard, maybe reading a story with your kid. Anchor yourself there when things get hectic.

Thomas McMinn reflects on the idea of “the good old days” and challenges dads to find meaning in the present rather than longing for the past. He explores how mindset shapes our experience of fatherhood, sharing real, practical tools for managing anxiety and emotions. Through honest conversation, Thomas reminds us that showing up with self-awareness, self-care, and open communication is what truly makes the moment we’re in—the good one.

2. Share the Load

You don’t have to carry it all. Offer to take on a role (like drinks, games, or carving the turkey) and own it—then let others handle their pieces. Delegate cleanup, assign kids “helper jobs,” and remember: teamwork makes for less stress.

Dad tip: Create a “Thanksgiving Playlist” ahead of time. It sets the mood, keeps you busy in the kitchen, and gives everyone something to enjoy. Or just ask Alexa to play Thanksgiving music and go with it.

3. Manage the Chaos with the Kids

Excited kids can turn into stressed parents quickly. Plan small activities to keep them engaged: board games, coloring sheets, or even a scavenger hunt for fall-themed items. If weather allows, send them outside for some backyard football.

Dad tip: Start a new tradition like “Kids vs. Dads” turkey trivia—it channels their energy and gives everyone a laugh.

4. Build in a Breather

Don’t underestimate the power of a quick reset. Step outside for five minutes of fresh air. Go for a short walk with your spouse. Check in with yourself. Recharging helps you show up better for your family.

Dad tip: Sneak in a morning workout or meditation before the chaos begins—you’ll feel steadier all day.

5. Embrace Imperfection

No Thanksgiving is flawless, and trying to control every detail only piles on stress. Lean into the imperfections—the burnt rolls, the spilled juice, the loud debates—and see them as part of the story your family will laugh about later.

Dad tip: Say it out loud: “Perfect is boring. Memorable is better.”

Final Thoughts

Dads set the tone. If you’re calm, present, and focused on gratitude, your family will feel it too. Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be a stress test—it can be a reset button. So this year, let go of the pressure, embrace the mess, and make the day about connection.